Growing up, I was always told to wait until marriage. Don’t give yourself to someone who is not your husband. Because when you give your body and soul away before marriage, you risk becoming attached to someone through physical intimacy before you truly know their heart, their character, or their intentions. Sometimes what feels like love is really emotional and physical attachment created through lust.
How often have you laid down with someone and found yourself deeply attached to them almost immediately? You know very little about this person, but you know the sex is good. You enjoyed it. Your body felt good afterwards. But truthfully, you still don’t know the person you laid down with.
You ever hear people say, “We linked one time and we’ve been stuck together ever since”? Some people get lucky and end up building a life with that only link. But a lot of times, people become attached because they keep chasing the feeling that person gave them physically. They confuse being emotionally consumed with being genuinely loved.
You start pouring everything into someone. Giving them your heart too quickly when you don’t even know what makes them tick. You don’t know what makes them angry. You don’t know their family history, their trauma, their character, or their intentions. The only thing you truly know is how they make you feel physically.
And because of that feeling, you don’t want them laying down with anyone else. You mistake possession, attachment, and desire for love.
Have you ever gotten out of a relationship and thought to yourself, “Dang! I was blinded by the sex”? You start realizing they were not even attractive to you emotionally or spiritually. Maybe they weren’t even a good person. But the physical connection had you overlooking everything else.
Thats is when it’s all said and done, lust does not last long. Lust is temporary. Lusr wears off and that’s when you truly start seeing them for who they truly are.
That’s why relationships built only on lust tend to burn down so badly when things go sour. There was never a real foundation holding it together in the first place.
I have found myself there more times than I would like to admit, confusing lust with love. And in the end, I found myself in the same place every time: alone, hurt, and left with regrets.
At what point do you get tired of that cycle?
At what point do you finally say, “Keep the lust. Give me real love.”
For me, I crave discipline. I want a love so grounded that we can hold hands, kiss, and lie next to each other without feeling like every moment has to lead to sex. I want connection, self control, and intimacy that exists beyond physical desire.
I don’t want sex to be the foundation of my relationship. I want it to be a bonus, not the main thing keeping us connected.
I want deep conversations.
Genuine companionship.
Laughter.
Peace.
Intimacy that goes beyond physical desire.
I don’t want every night to end with us centered around sex, because that’s how people often confuse lust with love.
I don’t want to lust over anyone.
I want a pure, genuine, forever kind of love.
Because unlike love, lust fades.
Lust does not last forever.
Love ya, Bye 🤍
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