A while back I heard the term “Unpunishable Woman” and just hearing it made me want to understand more. Of course, the first thing I did was go look it up on TikTok because TikTok is my Google. The first video I watched, a girl made a comment saying, “You cannot control me, I am unpunishable.”
And I was like okayyyy girl, I like that. Let me hear more.
Because what do you mean unpunishable?
The more I sat with it, I realized it’s not about being loud or hard. It’s really about not being easily moved.
Because if I’m honest, I used to be very punishable.
Not like someone was punishing me, but people could shift my whole mood. Distract me. Pull me out of alignment. Especially in relationships. I would lose focus on myself, on God, on what I was supposed to be doing.
And every time I did that, I felt it.
So now, being “unpunishable” for me just means you don’t have that kind of access to me anymore.
I’m not easily manipulated.
I’m not moved by guilt or pressure.
I’m firm on my boundaries.
You don’t get to disrupt my peace.
You don’t get to confuse me.
Not because I don’t care, but because I care about myself and my walk with God more.
Everything doesn’t deserve a reaction.
Everybody doesn’t deserve access.
So NO, you can’t control me.
Not because I’m hard.
But because I’m focused.
Love ya, Bye! 🌸
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