Let me be honest. I am not confused about what I was taught. I grew up knowing what the Bible says. I understand what sin is. I understand what conviction feels like. I am not walking around pretending I do not know when I fall short.
I know when I am sinning. Just like everyone else does.
What I struggle with is not conviction. It is the way certain sins are treated as if they carry more weight than others. Why does it feel like some struggles are whispered about, prayed over, and labeled “concerning,” while others are quietly accepted as normal human behavior?
I am not denying that I fall short. I am questioning why my shortcomings seem to be magnified while others are minimized.
The same people who pray over certain sins often excuse their own. Premarital sex is common. Drinking is common. Smoking is common. Gossip is common. Pride, anger, unforgiveness, none of these are rare. Yet somehow we have grown comfortable with those.
But let someone struggle in a way that challenges comfort or tradition, and suddenly the response changes. The tone shifts. The prayers feel heavier. The distance feels intentional.
James 2:10 tells us , “ For the person who keeps all of the laws except one is as guilty as a person who has broken all of God’s laws.” This scripture does not present sin as a ranking system. There is no spiritual hierarchy where one person’s struggle outranks another’s.
And yet culturally, that is exactly what we have created. We categorize sins. We normalize some and spotlight others. We extend grace selectively.
I am not claiming righteousness. I am not claiming perfection. I am simply asking for consistency.
If we are all sinners, then let us all be sinners. If we all need mercy, then let us extend mercy equally. If God is the final judge, then let Him judge.
What hurts is not conviction. What hurts is condemnation. What hurts is being treated as if one struggle defines you more than someone else’s does them.
None of us stand spotless. Not me. Not you. None of us.
So maybe the real issue is not whether someone is sinning. Maybe the real issue is why we feel so comfortable ranking each other’s sins instead of remembering that we all stand in need of grace.
Love ya, BYE! 🤍
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