This morning I had a talk with my friend about ending friendships and relationships. I told her how much I hate being ghosted because you never really know what went wrong or what happened. One day everything feels fine, and the next, the person is just gone. No explanation. No closure. Nothing.
I never want anyone to feel that way because of me.
I really wish people would be more open and honest. If you do not want to talk to someone anymore, just say that. If it is not working, say that. If you are not ready, say that. Just be real.
Cutting someone off is not an easy thing to do. It is not pretty. It is not fun. But honesty at least gives the other person some understanding of why you are letting them go or why you are creating distance. Sometimes the right thing to do is just be honest. To say, “I’m sorry, I don’t think we’re aligned,” or “I don’t see this going anywhere,” or “I’m not in a place to date right now.” It is not easy to say, but it is respectful.
Imagine thinking everything is fine, and then suddenly someone disappears from your life. You are left questioning yourself. What did I do? What did I say? Was it something about me? That kind of silence can mess with a person.
The polite thing to do is to let someone know where you stand. It does not have to turn into a long conversation or an argument. Sometimes it is enough to just be honest and leave it at that.
Not everything is meant to last, and that is okay. Honesty gives people peace. It gives them closure instead of questions. Silence only leaves room for doubt.
Tee Talk 