I recently watched an episode of Sex and the City. Can I just say… I love that show. And honestly, Carrie Bradshaw gave me the push I needed to start my blog.
In the episode I watched, the ladies were all sitting at a restaurant talking about Charlotte’s nonexistent sex life with her fiancé. Charlotte decided to wait until marriage to sleep with him. Samantha, the very free spirited, sex positive friend, felt like this was a huge mistake. One of her exact lines was, “You’re supposed to test drive it before you marry it.”
Charlotte obviously disagreed, but ended up sleeping with her fiancé the night before their wedding and quickly found out that man could not get it up. Which ultimately led to months of a sexless marriage followed by divorce.
Now, while I do not particularly agree with Samantha, she did make an interesting point.
It reminded me of this guy I dated about five years ago. He was great, and his obsession with me was honestly flattering. We went on weekly dates. Sometimes even three times a week. We had a blast.
After a few weeks of dating. One drunken night, parked in front of my house, I went for it. How slutty of me haha. But hey, I was drunk and living in the moment.
I will never forget the first moment he entered me. I literally had to pause and look down like… that’s it? Where is the rest of it? You have got to be sh*tting me.
After a few moments, I told him goodnight and ran into my house. I was so annoyed I just had to call my best friend to tell her all about it. I laughed until I cried. Because WTF…
Maybe it was the alcohol, I told her. Maybe I needed to try again when I was sober.
So on the next date, I stayed far away from any alcoholic beverages. Later that night, I called my friend again and told her, “It was alright.”
But I cannot see myself going through life with just alright. Could you?
I eventually broke things off. I knew I did not want to be intimately involved with him anymore. I just couldn’t get past the just “alright” sex.
But what if I had waited?
What if I had let our relationship grow into something more than just that before sleeping with him?
What if I had waited until marriage?
Would I have stayed or would I have left like Charlotte?
Would our relationship have been so great that this one little mishap could have been overlooked?
Can love outweigh a lifetime of alright sex?
Or is Samantha right?
Sometimes you really do have to test drive a person before marrying them and know exactly what you are getting into.
love ya, Bye!
Tee Talk 